Effective Communication vs a Textationship

The Textationship as noted in Part I of this 3 part series—is a false fantasy in a virtual world where real feelings are exchanged in the form of digital messages. Oftentimes, with these “textationships” a myriad of affections and personal accounts are voluntarily shared between two parties. In many cases, the two individuals involved haven’t met in person. Or, they have had very little interaction outside a chat room, their cell phone messenger, or social media DMs.

Effective Communication

In contrast, when communication is truly effective, a rapport of sorts is established between the two parties. Notably, both parties will exhibit purposeful listening and understanding on, and offline. To put it another way, effective communication is transparent, productive, intentional, honest, empathetic, and attentive.

Just Say No to the Textationship Shenanigans

Comparatively, a textationship lacks the personal interaction necessary to determine mutual alignment and true authenticity. As a result, a textationship ultimately becomes an ineffective, counterproductive, assessment of compatibility. Ultimately, destined to meet its untimely end by the scythe of offline reality.

False Narrative

The creation of a false narrative can be due to naturally occurring narrative patterns, transient contextual framing, inadvertent presentation, or intentional deception.

Melanie Anne Phillips, Author

In other words, a textationship can destroy the chances of a real relationship becoming successful. In this case, this virtual relationship is an untrue, unrealistic presentation that places the two people involved in a virtual conundrum of discord. Meaning, you all are probably confused AF about what you’re even doing.  

Coupled with, delusions of grandeur—a textationship is a self-defeating prophecy of unintended consequences that are destined to occur sooner or later. 

A Textationship Isn’t Texting

On the positive side, technology has been a gift in the form of short texts that are delivered instantly. As a result, the efficiency and speed of communicative exchanges have vastly improved.

When used properly, a text message can be used for various purposes during the, “get to know” phase of the dating process. To put it another way, we can send texts to confirm a date. Or, check-in with the other person without a phonecall interruption to a busy workday.  Not only that, but we can also use text messaging, chats, or DMs to have light-hearted conversations. This is especially convenient when in-person or phone dialog isn’t an option and we simply want to connect with the other person.


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"A Textationship is

Texting on Steriods."

To Each Their Own... However, Beware

Be that as it may, there are those of us that prefer texting to actual phone conversations. Chatting online, or sending text messages is their way—and no one can deter them from this form of communication.

Above all, chain texters prefer inline text dialog. They want us to respond to their texts back to back without much time in between responses. Similar to a flowing conversation, we will meet a chain texter online and engage them in chat. Eventually, they will exchange numbers with us.  However, instead of calling, they will continue to text us.


Beware of chain texters. They are very easy to spot (just use the examples above). Or else, end up in a textationship sharing false hopes, questionable synchronicity, and prophetic outcomes that will probably never come to fruition.

A lot of us accept textationships because the digital chemistry we've established feels euphoric. Afraid to meet, we settle into this virtual reality. Do you believe some of us prefer the digital fantasyland of a textationship over the real world?

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